Everyone wants to have the most amazing, fulfilling sexual life, and understandably so. While it’s not necessary, sex is a big part of every healthy relationship, and sharing a deep sexual connection with your partner is absolutely vital.
However, many people struggle to find a way to improve their sexual life or even have it more often. Life, stress, and other circumstances can get in the way, but it’s paramount to find a way to improve your sexual experience and, with it, your relationship. It not only makes you feel good but also has a lot of health benefits for your whole body.
There are many ways you can spice up your sexual relationship and have sex more often, from simple lingerie to extreme sex toys. Below are just a few of our ideas on how you can have better sex more often.
1. Communicate
Good communication is key to improving the quantity and quality of your sex life. Everyone likes something different in bed, so you have to let your partner know what you enjoy and hear what he or she enjoys during sex. If you don’t like something your partner is doing, be let them know and instruct them how to please you properly. However, be also ready and open to receiving criticism. It’s nothing bad, be open about the feedback and appreciate your partner’s willingness to communicate with you.
You may feel uncomfortable talking about sex initially, but communication is key to building a healthy relationship. With time, it will become something you regularly discuss, and the results will show in your sex life.
2. Dedicate time to each other
Trust me, I know that life can get in the way of having regular sex. The kids, your work, home chores, there are so many things to do in a day that sex is often put at the end of the list for many. However, your chores and obligations shouldn’t be a reason to abandon your partner and not feel in the mood. If needed, schedule intimate time together with your partner. Find a quiet, calm spot where you can dedicate your full attention to each other and enjoy one another without any distractions.
Having a set time for intimacy will ensure your sexual life won’t get ignored and becomes a habit in both your lives. Plus, having something to look forward to after a stressful day and the anticipation for your private time can get you even more excited about sex and what you have in store for one another.
3. Use sex toys
Regardless of how good it feels, sex can become dull over time. To spice up your sex life and make things more fun for both, you can always introduce some sex toys. Discuss with your partner how you feel about bringing in sex toys in the bedroom and what you would both like to try out.
There are many heterosexual and gay toys for every level of experience and desire. Whether you’re in the mood for bondage toys, vibrators, or some strapless strap-ons like these there are sex toys for every kink, regardless of how ordinary or extreme, it is.
4. Wear sexy underwear
To be in the mood for sex, you need to feel sexy and desirable. And there is no simpler way to feel good about yourself than putting on some sexy lingerie that will turn on your partner. Whether it’s a discreet one-piece bodysuit or a sexy corset and thong set, treat yourself to something sexy and make yourself feel like a sex symbol even when doing simple home chores.
If you want to spice things up, find your favorite piece of underwear and put on a show for your partner. It will make him/her go crazy from lust for you, and this is the first step to having more sex and better sex regularly.
5. Do Kegel exercises
Having strong pelvic floor muscles has been proven to contribute to a better sexual experience, and the road to strong pelvic muscles is through Kegel exercises. They make the muscles under the bladder, bowel, and uterus stronger, making sex more enjoyable and the orgasms more intense.
To do Kegel exercises, all you need to do is tighten your pelvic floor muscles, like you would if you want to contain urine, and hold for 3 to 5 seconds. Relax the muscles and repeat the exercise 10 times a few times a day.
6. Do something new and exciting
In the end, there is nothing more exciting than trying out new stuff in the bedroom. Hop into the car and go for a weekend retreat where you can dedicate your time to your partner or be more adventurous and try out the outdoors. Light some candles or put on a show for your partner to spice things up.
You can also try new positions. Get a copy of the Kama Sutra and try out some positions you haven’t tried out before. The options are endless. You just have to wake up your creative kinky side.
7. Take your time
Like anything else, sex also needs time. Don’t rush your foreplay, and take the time to relax and get into the mood. Sometimes, foreplay can be the most fun part about sex and build up the anticipation to make the sex more enjoyable.
Try dragging the foreplay out during the whole day, and when the time comes, experiment with mutual masturbation, watching porn together, or pleasuring one another. All of this can bring you two closer together and make you excited about sex and want to have it more.